So it has been a while since I last wrote about my natural hair journey and I thought it would be good to post an update. As I shared in previous posts, this is about a whole lot more than just hair for me. It is about teaching my baby girl (and myself) to love herself exactly how God has made her.
I need to be honest – this hasn’t been the easiest of journeys. I had no idea how much of my worth was tied up in my hair and what society deems as “good hair”. At first, I hated my hair – I had no idea what to do with it. We went out on a date one night soon after I cut it off and I struggled to believe I looked good because my hair couldn’t “hang”. I have not known how to manage my mane (or lack thereof) and I believed that I had made a huge mistake.
But, 4 months later, I have changed my tune. Yes, I still have days when I wish that my hair was long but honestly, my hair has not been this healthy or curly in as long as I can remember.
I live in Pietermaritzburg, KwaZulu Natal. Also known as , Sleepy Hollow, meaning everything takes a little bit longer to happen here than in the rest of the country. So, while the natural hair craze has been sweeping the big SA cities by storm – everyone is still relaxing the heck out of their hair up here. Never mind Brazilian treatments, weaves and extensions… So when I first told my hairdresser that I planned to cut my hair and “go natural”, I was faced with confusion. I have yet to find a natural hairstylist here in PMB who I really trust (recommendations welcome!) and this has meant that I have been on this journey with the help of my two great friends YouTube and Google.
My wash and go routine consists of wetting the hair, using a leave in conditioner, saturating the hair with a curl activating CREAM or pudding (not a mousse!) and then sealing with flaxseed gel (a small amount for slightly elongated curls and a larger amount for tight curls). At the moment this is my go-to style but I think that as my hair grows I will need to be investigating more protective styles.
One of the things that has helped my hair adventure along has been finding the right products. I have googled products like crazy and after researching I have landed on the following products. These products are available locally (if you are lucky, you’ll find them at Clicks) and won’t break the bank TOO much.
I have also found shopping online to be incredibly useful – my favourite natural product online shop is MzansiFro – they are comparable in price to places like clicks but they ship directly to your door. The owner is great and is ALWAYS available to answer queries (I have messaged her 9pm on a Friday evening and got a reply right away) as well sending amazing samples whenever you order, which allows you to try new products without breaking the bank. I am an Aunt Jackies girl – I use the kids line for Grace too.
When I look back at photo’s I am amazed at the amount of hair growth I have had over the last 4 months – I know that finding the right products has been integral in keeping my hair growing.
There are many reasons to go natural but I think it is important to know that this is also a faith journey for me – not just a hair journey.
Another blog, Little Me Big Praise, spells out some godly reasons to go natural. Go and read her post but to summarize:
- When you put a relaxer in your hair, you are not just changing the texture of your hair. You are sending a message to God. You are saying, “God, Your creation is not perfect. You made a mistake when you gave me these kinks and coils, curls and twists.”
- There is Beauty and Uniqueness in Your God-Given Natural Hair
- Going Natural Frees Us from the Lies of the Enemy That Has Been Fed 2 us By Society. It Frees Us From the Lie that Tells Us that We are Not Good Enough
- Going Natural Allows You to See How God Custom Built You
Whoever you are, whatever your hair looks like – you are fearfully and wonderfully made by a God who does not make any mistakes. Embrace God by embracing the natural hair he has given you.